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How do I get Rid of my “inner ugliness?”

July 7, 2014 by  
Filed under Difficulties, Featured, Fr. Bartunek, Pride

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Dear Father John, I have been struggling with some interior trials with forgiveness, resentment and jealousy. I call this “inner ugliness.” I have been praying fervently, going to confession, and receiving excellent spiritual direction. I have been willing myself to be charitable even when I am not feeling it. So here is my question. What am I missing, why do I still feel “inner ugly”? How do I let go of... Read More

Envy: The No Win Sin (Part II of II)

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In our previous post on envy, we looked at what envy is and how it manifests in our lives.  Today, we will examine the difference between envy and jealousy and talk about getting some prayer and perspective on this issue. Jealousy and Envy There is a difference between jealousy and envy. They are often used in the same way, but are two different things.  Jealousy is the feeling that someone has something that rightfully belongs... Read More

Envy: The No Win Sin (Part I of II)

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Let’s play the “What if…” game. What if you just lost your job while your co-worker received a promotion and a big raise?  Would you be happy for him? What if a parent that was often critical of your children, found out that her child was just caught for cheating?  Would you feel the slightest bit of satisfaction? What if your child dropped out of school while a friend’s child was just awarded a 4-year scholarship... Read More

Am I experiencing intellectual gluttony? – Part III of III

November 5, 2012 by  
Filed under Capital Sins, Fr. Bartunek, Sin

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Dear Father John, there is just too much to read! I feel like I should be reading more about my faith and the spiritual life, because I want to grow more. But I am so frustrated, because even if I would spend all day reading, I feel like I would barely be scratching the surface. So I get tense, confused, and then I don’t do anything. What’s going on with me, and what I should I do about this? In our first and second... Read More

Am I experiencing intellectual gluttony? – Part II of III

October 29, 2012 by  
Filed under Capital Sins, Faith, Fr. Bartunek, Gluttony, Sin, Spiritual Life

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Dear Father John, there is just too much to read! I feel like I should be reading more about my faith and the spiritual life, because I want to grow more. But I am so frustrated, because even if I would spend all day reading, I feel like I would barely be scratching the surface. So I get tense, confused, and then I don’t do anything. What’s going on with me, and what I should I do about this? In our first post,... Read More

Am I experiencing intellectual gluttony? – Part I of III

October 22, 2012 by  
Filed under Capital Sins, Faith, Fr. Bartunek, Sin, Spiritual Life

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Dear Father John, there is just too much to read! I feel like I should be reading more about my faith and the spiritual life, because I want to grow more. But I am so frustrated, because even if I would spend all day reading, I feel like I would barely be scratching the surface. So I get tense, confused, and then I don’t do anything. What’s going on with me, and what I should I do about this? The good thing is that... Read More

How do you help someone who suffers with severe anger?

October 22, 2012 by  
Filed under Anger, Capital Sins, Fr. Bartunek

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Dear Father John, I am a priest providing spiritual direction to a young man suffering with anger problems. He has recently returned to the sacraments. He is frustrated with God that he has asked him to take away this hurtful anger but God has not answered his prayer. Can you offer advice about how to overcome severe habitual challenges with anger? Anger is the most complex of the human passions. Understanding its underlying dynamism... Read More

Sexual thoughts – how can I understand them in light of my faith? Part II of II

August 7, 2012 by  
Filed under Capital Sins, Dan Burke, Lust, Mortal, Sin

I am struggling with sexual thoughts and am wondering about the teachings of the Church. Are all sexual sins mortal and does thinking of sex without arousal a mortal sin? When does the thought become mortal; is it when we don’t control it or is it always mortal? What exactly is lust and what are the church’s teaching on it? Is it always mortal as well? In the first of the two-post series on this question we covered... Read More

Sexual thoughts – how can I understand them in light of my faith? Part I of II

August 5, 2012 by  
Filed under Capital Sins, Dan Burke, Lust, Mortal, Sin

I am struggling with sexual thoughts and am wondering about the teachings of the Church. Are all sexual sins mortal and does thinking of sex without arousal a mortal sin? When does the thought become mortal; is it when we don’t control it or is it always mortal? What exactly is lust and what are the church’s teaching on it? Is it always mortal as well? Dear Friend, your questions are very direct, which is good, but... Read More

Consolation & Desolation… What are “spiritualized capital sins”?

Dear Father John, you used the phrase “spiritualized capital sins” in your post on consolation and desolation. I have never heard this idea before. What are spiritualized capital sins and how do they “attempt” to re-conquer the soul as we mature? We have to remember that here on earth we are members of the Church militant. We are in the midst of a battle. As we grow spiritually, the enemies of our souls... Read More